Is Anything Changing?

A simple guide to understanding how to use self work to create life change.

Clients often ask me how to tell if the work they are doing through books, therapy sessions, podcasts, group therapy, changing habits, etc is actually doing anything. When we have a strong demand that a behavior disappear or our life needs to change in a specific way, we lose sight of the possible gains happening through self realizations and shifts we are having. Spiritual narcissism is a real phenomenon that comes from doing too much self work without taking it deeper or involving others in our process. We can potentially get addicted to self help without changing anything about ourselves. I am writing this to help you discern if your self work is actually changing anything in your life.

The first step in this process we have to acknowledge is the place we never want to do self work. All of us who do self work have this. We have hard spots inside us we do not believe we can change. We have things we accept as just the way we are or beliefs and images about the way the world works th…