How Do You Know Love?

Our capacity to love is defined by what we know of love. This creates its own challenges in loving relationships. Here is your chance to compassionately understand your unloved self.

All of us grow up with different experiences of love in childhood. Some of us knew unequivocally that we were loved. Some of us felt the need to earn or perform to be loved. Some of us felt the compulsion to manipulate into being loved or hoping for love. Some of us felt abandoned in love. Any sort of experienced trauma underlines our experience of love, twisting the impulse to be loved into something painful or shameful. How love was available in our family body taught us what parts of our self can be effortlessly loved and what parts need to be rejected or hidden because they are intrinsically unloveable. There is an overarching theme of tension in life towards the lovable and the unlovable.