Competition in Relationships

Why we feel the need to compete with those we love

Striving

Let's take a moment, before I start, to feel into the concept of striving in your body. What in your life do you feel like you need to work really hard for but never reach a feeling of completion? What are you seeking from the work you do? Do you want recognition? Acceptance? Understanding? How do you go about trying to earn this goal? What avenue do you use? Work? Creative expression? Friendship? Avoidance? Relationships? Sex? The internal dynamic of churning want coupled with a lack of understanding how to feel completion creates striving. We push ourselves towards what we want while holding ourself back because we distrust actually getting what we want. Striving then starts to bleed over into our more intimate relationships, creating a sense of competition.

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