All I Need To Do Is Ask?

The Danger of Assumptions and the Ease of Breaking A Pattern

I remember when I first met my husband he told me a phrase that I had never heard before. He said, “When you assume, you make an ass out of you…and me.” I can’t believe I had never heard that before but…duh. Right? This simple concept to embrace in theory is a source point for a lot of what goes wrong in our own head and ripples out to what goes wrong in our life.

Today, I want to talk about the danger of assumptions on our emotional health and relational capacity.

Assumptions create a cascade of internal events depending on our own degree of comfort with the emotion hiding beneath the assumption. Assumptions can easily take us into a realm of incredibly paranoid and distrustful states of being. An assumption is a simple thought that, let’s be honest, is completely normal to innocently engage in. Assumptions are a way that we choose to engage in separating ourselves from others. They also feed the shadow of feelings that nourish loneliness and not belonging.

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