Have you ever had a conversation with someone where you are entranced by their interest? Have you ever had a feeling upon meeting someone that they want to know all about you? Maybe you’ve had an experience where someone just can’t seem to get enough of you?
…Or perhaps you have just fantasized about this kind of magical connection…
There’s a reason why romance writers spiral into the interest and attention dynamic as they weave fantasies of a perfect couple. They are working off of a premise that we all crave being interesting. At our core, we all want attention. When we are given the full attention of someone else, everything around us and inside us becomes more alive. That embodied sensation of interest creates the capacity to feel erotic.
What if you could allow attention - not just receiving it but also giving - to be erotic? (Teaching point: Erotic does not equal sexual. Erotic means to feel vitally alive as a sensate being in your own body.)
There is a paradox with attention and i…
